Why do we pick this?

Ricky and Abby have been fighting an uphill battle against debt since the 2008 financial crash. As a self-employed delivery driver, Ricky hopes to regain some independence - 0ok though Ricky will not be able to eat and pee in a bottle on a working day, as there is not enough time for the luxury of going to the toilet or taking a lunch break. Abby's job as a carer is not easy either. She earns the minimum wage, or actually half the minimum wage, because she travels from house to house to help the elderly or disabled, and the travel time is not paid. Initially, the family bond of the family is strong. The children need their parents. However, when both parents are pulled in different directions, everything comes to a breaking point. The son quits school and starts petty criminal affairs, the daughter can no longer cope emotionally with the tensions at home, and the parents sink even deeper into debt.
Do you recognise this? Do you know anyone who has had something like this happen to them?
Ricky and Abby are the main characters of Sorry we missed you, the latest film by Ken Loach, the award-winning independent filmmaker known for his critique of British society. The main themes the Loach films are poverty, homelessness and working conditions. It seems his criticisms are getting tougher. 
Exactly ten years ago, the documentary Last Train Home by Chinese-Canadian filmmaker Lixin Fan. The documentary follows couple Chen and Zhang, two of the 130 million Chinese factory workers working in a city thousands of kilometres away from the village they come from, who have four days off once a year to go back to their families. The only motivation for Chen and Zhang to keep doing this for years is that their children, who live in the village with their grandmother, will have a better life than themselves. When Chen and Zhang find out that their daughter has decided to quit school and is now also working in the factory, they begin to wonder if the price of their sacrifice was too high.
But then again, those were Chinese and ‘everything is different there’. ‘Europe is different cake,’ people kept shouting.
Recently, Loach was in Amsterdam to promote his film. He told the audience at film museum Eye that his film showed a softened version of the reality he had encountered while researching in England. Because if he had told the real story of working conditions where targets are more important than people, it would have become indigestible. For instance, there was the story of a diabetic who had no time to see his doctor and who died at 50 is during his tour of duty. The makers of Sorry we missed you decided that their protagonists continue to live, although this life does not seem like a winning fate.
‘Why do we put up with this?’ the 83-year-old director asked the audience. ‘How is it that in Europe in 2019, two people with jobs can't make it financially?’ Someone from the audience asked: ‘Is this a story about how capitalism has failed?’ Loach: ‘Sorry man, capitalism is not failing here. This is capitalism at its best!’
Although I found the film very intense and had to recover afterwards, I found the comments from moviegoers in the corridors of our beautiful modern film museum even more worrying: ‘How bad it is in England, it's much better here.’ I couldn't help asking why they thought that. ‘Compared to England, we are much better organised,’ a lady in her 50s in a modern purple suit told me. Her company nodded in satisfaction. 
Do we in the Netherlands really have reason to be happy? Why are we not very angry? Isn't our society also organised in such a way that the most vulnerable, the least able to cope, suffer the most?
The foyer of the film museum was beautifully lit and warm. Everyone tried to congratulate Ken Loach. After a few pleasant wines, the topic of ‘Why are we picking this?’ in Eye was no longer discussed. Ah voila... another busy day tomorrow. China was far away, but now England is also far away. Amsterdam Bijlmer and Nieuw-West are not so far, but yes Dutch Ricky's and Abbie's don't come to the cinema, so their stories remain far enough.
But who am I to say anything, I am just a Bosnian refugee who stayed on a visit for too long and my word only counts if I say something about Bosnia. Ahead, I won't disappoint either: It will not happen to us, we are not crazy, we cried when the war started in Slovenia. Even when it happened in Croatia, it didn't start. Not even for us Sarajevans. When the war was already erupting elsewhere in Bosnia, we repeated: No, it's never going to happen in Sarajevo.
People only learn when it's their turn.